Travis Bennett: Hi everyone and welcome back to Doerscircle. Today we've got another Featured Doers interview and it's with Fey from Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy. My name is Travis and I'm going to be running the interview today. Welcome to Doerscircle, Fey, and thank you for sharing everything about your business with us.
Fey Wong: Hi everyone, I'm Fey Wong and friends know me as Hypno Fey. I'm the founder and principal therapist of Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy.
Travis Bennett: That's a cool name. Why did you choose Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy as a name for your business?
Fey Wong: So most people are quite intrigued when they hear about the name of my practice. I think everyone knows that Humpty Dumpty is actually a famous character from the nursery rhyme. And so he's an egg, right? And he had a great fall. So Travis I ask you, where do you think humans evolve from?
Travis Bennett: Well, that's a loaded question. It could be a lot of things. I mean, there are monkeys, there's God, and then Adam & Eve.
Fey Wong: From our mothers?
Travis Bennett: Yeah, from our mothers! From the egg.
Fey Wong: So actually, we humans are essentially eggs. And like eggs, humans are actually very fragile. Okay, so maybe I could just demonstrate how fragile we are. So given a typical day, let's say someone starts the day going to work. He drives to work, and someone cuts into his lane. What happens? The person gets angry, right? So filled with anger. There's so much traffic going on and that makes him really anxious, so he suffers from anxiety.
Maybe he steps into the office, his superior comes up to him, and makes a harsh comment, like “Why are you so slow? Why can you not meet the deadline?” So what happens then? The person feels hurt. And he starts to believe that he's not good enough. Maybe then he goes to a client's meeting and the client agreed on something prior to that meeting, but now decides to change his mind and say, “No.” So what happens? The person may feel betrayed, rejected, and untrusting of people. He starts to believe that he's undeserving and eventually might develop a poverty mindset that he can't attract good things.
Okay, so after work, maybe the person goes home, his child comes up to him, and the child shows him his test results. And maybe the child is not doing so well. So the person is filled with worries. He doesn't know how to help his child, so he feels confused. And maybe his spouse is not very supportive and involved, so he feels unsupported. Then that may cause him to feel lonely, and he may start to form a belief that he's unlovable. So this is just in one day - these beliefs and negative emotions. So what happens is that the person carries this filtered lens wherever he goes, and starts to really starts to hold onto all these beliefs and negative emotions about himself.
Travis Bennett: That’s a lot to go through in one day and to be looking at the world through.
Fey Wong: Yeah, it is. So actually, all these things rob us of our peace and happiness. And that's why our work as therapists is so important. Yeah, we help people to release all this.
Travis Bennett: Very cool. I'd love to learn a little bit more about hypnotherapy and what it kind of means and what it looks like when you're doing it to someone. I understand we were going to perhaps hypnotize someone here today *laughs*.
Fey Wong: *Laughs* Yeah, we can do a little demonstration later. So maybe I can start with what hypnotherapy is not. Most people have watched hypnotherapy on TV where it is very dramatized and misinterpreted, for sure. So when I tell people about hypnotherapy, the first thing that usually strikes them is fear, right? You're paralyzed by fear. They ask me, “Oh, are you going to do mind control on me?” Hypnotherapy is not mind control, for sure. Sometimes I make a joke that if I can really do mind control, I would have instructed my clients to go rob a bank or something. So people laugh at that. But what does this show? It shows that emotions always rule over our logical thinking. So yeah, maybe we can do a little demonstration of what being in a state of hypnosis looks like, to dispel that fear.
Travis Bennett: Awesome, Maybe we can invite Swaraa here to sit in for the session. I'd love to see and be able to comment on what it looks like for someone going through this.
Fey Wong: Hi Swaraa! How are you doing today?
Swaraa Lodha: Hi! I'm doing well and I’m excited to be here.
Fey Wong: Yeah, that's great. So I would like to ask you - have you been hypnotized before?
Swaraa Lodha: Not really, no. I haven’t.
Fey Wong: Okay. Thank you for wanting to try this out. So what I want to let you know is that being in a state of hypnosis is just a state where you're going to be really relaxed, because we are putting your nervous system to sleep. That's the first thing. The second thing is that you should remember that you're always in control. You can share what you're comfortable with sharing. It's a very, very safe process. So just expect to feel really relaxed and it’s nothing scary.