Travis Bennett: Hi everyone and welcome back to Doerscircle. Today we've got another Featured Doers interview and it's with Fey from Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy. My name is Travis and I'm going to be running the interview today. Welcome to Doerscircle, Fey, and thank you for sharing everything about your business with us.
Fey Wong: Hi everyone, I'm Fey Wong and friends know me as Hypno Fey. I'm the founder and principal therapist of Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy.
Travis Bennett: That's a cool name. Why did you choose Humpty Dumpty Hypnotherapy as a name for your business?
Fey Wong: So most people are quite intrigued when they hear about the name of my practice. I think everyone knows that Humpty Dumpty is actually a famous character from the nursery rhyme. And so he's an egg, right? And he had a great fall. So Travis I ask you, where do you think humans evolve from?
Travis Bennett: Well, that's a loaded question. It could be a lot of things. I mean, there are monkeys, there's God, and then Adam & Eve.
Fey Wong: From our mothers?
Travis Bennett: Yeah, from our mothers! From the egg.
Fey Wong: So actually, we humans are essentially eggs. And like eggs, humans are actually very fragile. Okay, so maybe I could just demonstrate how fragile we are. So given a typical day, let's say someone starts the day going to work. He drives to work, and someone cuts into his lane. What happens? The person gets angry, right? So filled with anger. There's so much traffic going on and that makes him really anxious, so he suffers from anxiety.
Maybe he steps into the office, his superior comes up to him, and makes a harsh comment, like “Why are you so slow? Why can you not meet the deadline?” So what happens then? The person feels hurt. And he starts to believe that he's not good enough. Maybe then he goes to a client's meeting and the client agreed on something prior to that meeting, but now decides to change his mind and say, “No.” So what happens? The person may feel betrayed, rejected, and untrusting of people. He starts to believe that he's undeserving and eventually might develop a poverty mindset that he can't attract good things.
Okay, so after work, maybe the person goes home, his child comes up to him, and the child shows him his test results. And maybe the child is not doing so well. So the person is filled with worries. He doesn't know how to help his child, so he feels confused. And maybe his spouse is not very supportive and involved, so he feels unsupported. Then that may cause him to feel lonely, and he may start to form a belief that he's unlovable. So this is just in one day - these beliefs and negative emotions. So what happens is that the person carries this filtered lens wherever he goes, and starts to really starts to hold onto all these beliefs and negative emotions about himself.
Travis Bennett: That’s a lot to go through in one day and to be looking at the world through.
Fey Wong: Yeah, it is. So actually, all these things rob us of our peace and happiness. And that's why our work as therapists is so important. Yeah, we help people to release all this.
Travis Bennett: Very cool. I'd love to learn a little bit more about hypnotherapy and what it kind of means and what it looks like when you're doing it to someone. I understand we were going to perhaps hypnotize someone here today *laughs*.
Fey Wong: *Laughs* Yeah, we can do a little demonstration later. So maybe I can start with what hypnotherapy is not. Most people have watched hypnotherapy on TV where it is very dramatized and misinterpreted, for sure. So when I tell people about hypnotherapy, the first thing that usually strikes them is fear, right? You're paralyzed by fear. They ask me, “Oh, are you going to do mind control on me?” Hypnotherapy is not mind control, for sure. Sometimes I make a joke that if I can really do mind control, I would have instructed my clients to go rob a bank or something. So people laugh at that. But what does this show? It shows that emotions always rule over our logical thinking. So yeah, maybe we can do a little demonstration of what being in a state of hypnosis looks like, to dispel that fear.
Travis Bennett: Awesome, Maybe we can invite Swaraa here to sit in for the session. I'd love to see and be able to comment on what it looks like for someone going through this.
Fey Wong: Hi Swaraa! How are you doing today?
Swaraa Lodha: Hi! I'm doing well and I’m excited to be here.
Fey Wong: Yeah, that's great. So I would like to ask you - have you been hypnotized before?
Swaraa Lodha: Not really, no. I haven’t.
Fey Wong: Okay. Thank you for wanting to try this out. So what I want to let you know is that being in a state of hypnosis is just a state where you're going to be really relaxed, because we are putting your nervous system to sleep. That's the first thing. The second thing is that you should remember that you're always in control. You can share what you're comfortable with sharing. It's a very, very safe process. So just expect to feel really relaxed and it’s nothing scary.
Swaraa Lodha: Okay, great!
Fey Wong: So, Swaraa, if you can just roll your eyes up as high as you possibly can for me. Roll them up as if you're looking into your own eyebrows or viewing an imaginary spot over your head.
Swaraa Lodha: *As per instructions - Rolls her eyes back and looks up*
Fey Wong: Yes, that's perfect. Okay, and every time you bling, that is hypnosis coming upon you. So just take a deep breath in, Swaraa. As you exhale, it's so easy to let go. Take another deep breath… and let your eyeballs roll down. Take a deep breath in and as you exhale… just shut your eyelids all the way down.
Swaraa Lodha: *As per instructions - Sits with her head straight and eyes closed*
Fey Wong: That's perfect. As your eyelids shit down, let the muscles and nerves in and around your eyes feel heavy, droopy, or drowsy. Okay, just take one deep breath in again.
It's so easy to let go of any tension… any stress… that you're holding in your body.
You don't need to do anything. Just let it happen… Just let the drifting, floating feeling cocoon you. You are in a safe space. Okay, Swaraa, you can just gently open your eyes.
So how did that feel?
Swaraa Lodha: Wow, okay. I was feeling a bit anxious before this began, but it kind of centered me with all the breathing. And this is what I imagined what ASMR would feel like?
Yeah, because I listen to a lot of ASMR, I think this is what being in it would feel like.
Fey Wong: Yeah! You know we are so anxious doing things every day, right? Like even this gives me anxiety. I mean, it's very normal things that we have to do in our everyday life. But how do we find and center ourselves? So, using this process we can do that.
Swaraa Lodha: Yeah, absolutely! This was amazing. Thank you.
Travis Bennett: Welcome back! So, Fey, maybe you can tell me a little bit more about the different types of hypnotherapy that you can help with and all the different types that there are?
Fey Wong: So basically, there are many branches of hypnotherapy. The one that I practice is known as rapid transformational therapy. This is an approach that is rooted in neuroscience. It combines the most effective principles of hypnotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, psychotherapy, as well as neuro-linguistic programming. So the value that I provide to clients is that I use all these tools to get to the root cause of the issue very quickly. We then get clarity around the presenting problem. Then we find solutions during the session using reframing and transformational techniques and all these are done within a two-hour session.
Travis Bennett: Wow! So then, maybe leading on from that, what type of clients come to you looking for these services? What kinds of things can you help them with and what are they struggling through?
Fey Wong: So, many of my clients are C-suite executives. They are executives in management or leadership roles, sales roles, and even business owners. These professionals are actually very time-staffed. They are looking for fast, effective solutions around their presenting problems. So, they can be having a problem regarding their business, or be looking for clarity in decision-making processes. They may even have personal issues where they want to overcome anxiety, overthinking, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs while wanting to improve their interpersonal relationships, or just simply improve their sleep. So hypnotherapy can actually help with a wide range of issues that people may face, so it's a very effective way of solving problems.
Travis Bennett: Perfect. And that's also good for anyone listening - if you do find yourself struggling with any of these challenges, then it might be good to reach out to Fey, and have a chat about what kind of benefits you may get from a two-hour session. It's a very quick and efficient way to maybe get to the root cause of some of these things that you've been struggling with in your business too.
Fey Wong: Yeah! I also conduct small wellness workshops for corporations who want to create greater synergy and focus for their teams. So I do that as well.
Travis Bennett: Awesome. You know, we're all on a journey here. And as an entrepreneur who started a hypnotherapy practice yourself, if you look back, what would kind of advice or recommendations would you give to your younger self?
Fey Wong: So personally, I wish that I'd known rapid transformational therapy at the start of my career life and adulthood. I think that would have saved me a tremendous amount of time, energy, effort, and resources around my career decisions and even down to the choice of my life partner, et cetera. So if you're watching this, I would like to invite you to embark on a journey, to look within yourself and harness the power of your subconscious mind to truly create the life that you desire. So maybe you can go onto my website, connect with me, and we can have a chat to map up the transformation that you're looking for.
Travis Bennett: Awesome, thank you. And I guess one thing I'd like to circle back to is, Doerscircle. How did you find out about our community and what got you excited about being a part of it?
Fey Wong: So, I actually came across Doerscircle on social media, quite randomly. And I found that it was a great platform to network and connect with like-minded people and business owners. I actually learned a lot from the masterclasses the platform provides. I think it's a good platform because as a small business, like my own, I can't possibly do everything on my own. So Doerscircle provides business solutions, from accounting, to PR to marketing, and these are really useful for businesses. So yeah, I will highly recommend people to go on the website, take a look, and help yourselves in your business.
Travis Bennett: Awesome. Well, thank you for joining us today. I think that wraps up all the questions that we had. If anyone would like to reach out to her, we've got all of her links and emails, and social media handles on the Featured Doers page of our website, so you can check that out there. And thank you for joining us for this interview today. It's been a pleasure.
